“Do you see that stoplight?” exclaimed Hal as I was driving down Bell Boulevard for the first time.
“I didn’t see it,” I timidly responded with my hands shaking at the wheel.
“You’re the one driving this car; no one else is driving it for you. You step behind the wheel and it’s your responsibility to get where you’re going, no distractions and no looking for conflict,” he yelled matter-of-factly.
“I’m not feeling too great,” I lied, surrendering the wheel to the next driver.
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You eat, you bathe, you get a job, and somewhere in between you learn how to drive. Driving is one of the most essential skills adults in most areas need to learn so that they can get around and be independent. For most people it’s as easy as riding a bike, but I, am a statistics person. I knew going into this that driving is about the most dangerous thing one does in an average day, which is why I’ve never been afraid of flying or roller coasters—which cause far less accidents yearly. But me, driving? How was a tiny girl like me going to operate this 4,000 pound gas-guzzling monstrosity? Maybe, I couldn’t do it. I mean hey, G-d gave out all the gifts before we were born, perhaps I didn’t wait on the driver’s line because I was too busy on the line for academics and leadership. That HAD to be the reason; after all, everything in the world has balance!
I got home that day and told my parents that maybe I really am not the driving type. I’m anxious, I’m nearsighted, I’m too short to reach the pedals, I can’t, I can’t, I can’t…
The “I can’t” mindset stops millions of people everyday from accomplishing their goals. They don’t lose the weight, they don’t go for the interview, they don’t ask that girl out and not because they can’t, but because they are afraid of failing. Failure is something that we are destined to do. Most of us are great at it (I fail to walk without tripping over my own feet at least twice a day). If we were all perfect beings we wouldn’t need to live because there would be no room for growth, our biggest triumph. The important thing in life is to never give up, because if you do, you’re only losing the battle against your strongest impediment—yourself. No one is expecting us to emanate with grace 24/7, but we are expected to keep pushing forward. With an "I can't" mentality, there was no way I could accomplish what I wanted.
50 hours, 30 scoldings, 20 parallel parks, 10 broken U-turns, 5 crying episodes, 3 near pedestrian collisions, and 1 ounce of that Jewish stubbornness later, I danced home with the black and white proof of my persistence—the highly anticipated (interim) driver’s license. I’m glad I stuck it out. I bet Hal would be proud of me right now (and also terribly petrified that I’m on the road without him). I’m proud of myself for taking the wheel and choosing the correct road to take.
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