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Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen. My name is Andy Lo and I am the second speaker on our team. Today, I will be talking about what are family values, why they are important, respect and the family in premature years.
In my opinion, schools are not as important in teaching values as family does. A family is a group of people which you belong to, containing members which are related by birth, marriage or adoption. From the moment a child is born, they belong to a family. By today’s standards, they are clothed, fed, and provided accommodation by the parents' until they decide to leave their parent’s accommodation, either by choice or by force. Even after that, they still belong to the family and for the rest of their lives. Unlike school, a family actually cares for one another. Feelings and concerns are also communicated throughout a family. In moments of joy and happiness, the feelings are shared throughout your family. In moments of sadness and peril, family members would try to cheer one another up through discussions and physical signs of affection. For example, it has become a popular tradition to celebrate Christmas with you family. Members of a family would get together, regardless of how far they live and share a feast together. Gifts are exchanged and time is spent together during this holiday. It is the strong trust and physical and emotional intimacy that you share and experience in family that distinguish family from a school, influenced by family values.
What are family values? Family values are a set of moral beliefs. In social and religious perspectives, they are used against the decline of personal moral beliefs in various nations across the world. They are set and passed down from generation to generation by members within a family and are designed to fit the needs of that family. They are not the same. In each family, there is a different set of family values depending on the culture, economy, political beliefs and religion of a family. The values are based around these factors so that they would be influenced to be the best possible person based on the family’s status and the individual’s preference. For example, a Christian family may believe that it is inappropriate to allow gays and gay marriages and many hold a prejudice against gays and gay marriages. This is because it is against their religious belief, influenced by the teachings of God, Jesus and the Bible. However, in a family who believes strongly in human rights, they believe that gays should be treated equally and fairly, just like any other human beings. Their beliefs are influenced on the concept and idea of equal rights for all humans, regardless of race, appearance or beliefs.
In this case, family values are important. It allows family members from their perspectives to be able to distinguish by themselves on what is right and what is wrong. This allows people to believe in what they want to believe in. It also allows people to make their own choices in life and strive to fulfil their goals and ambitions. Schools, however only teaches values which allows students to succeed in their academic learning and to cooperate with other students and the staff within the institute. This means the values taught at school are really a “one size fits all.” They are broader than family values that they are almost pointless. Also, the time that you belong to a school is only a fraction of your life. Once you leave school, the school will not care about you. The family, however, will continue to care and support you even after your schooling. It is the values taught within a family that will influence your character in life, not the ones taught in school As the 1st speaker, Holly said: Family is for life. School is temporary phase. You don’t only need values age 5-18. An example would be Thomas Edison. Thomas Edison was an American inventor and businessman. He developed many devices which played a great influence in the lifestyle of the 20th Century. He invented such things as the light bulb and the telegraph. However, Thomas Edison was not very successful at school. He had a late start in schooling. He was underestimated and insulted by the teachers and he lacked the ability to concentrate in school. This ended Edison’s three months of formal schooling. His mother willingly took over the job of schooling her son, despite the school giving up all hope on Thomas Edison. Her mother encouraged and taught Thomas to read and experiment. By the age of twelve, he was partially deaf, yet he did not give up on life. It was the teachings and values of his mother that Thomas became the successful and famous inventor that he was in the majority of his life. Thomas Edison quoted “My mother was the making of me. She was so true, so sure of me: and I felt I had something to live for, someone I must not disappoint.” This showed that Thomas’s work was greatly influenced by the values taught by his mother’s righteous teachings. If it wasn’t for his mother, it would be most likely that he would not have become that character in life. This also showed that Thomas had chosen to respect his mother.
Respect is to show consideration or regard to a particular person or a group of people. Respect can be shown by a person if they possess the value to. Often, respect is mistaken for a synonym for politeness or manners. Instead, these are behaviours that show respect. Respect is an attitude that someone has the choice to show or not. In a family, you have the choice to choose who to respect. You can choose to not like your father, your mother, your brothers or sisters or even your grandparents, yet it is likely that you will still remain a part of the family and that your family will still look after you. If a person does disrespect their family to a certain extent, he/she could grow up with no sense of value. They could grow up lonely and turn into a criminal. Regardless of the consequences, it is their own choice that they choose to disrespect their parents. In school, however, you have to respect them no matter what. This is because in order to accomplish the purpose of a school, respect needs to be shown by students and staff so that the school provides a pleasant academic learning environment. Also, a person is forced to show respect to their friends whenever they are at school. A person’s friends are treated like any other student by the school. This is so that their learning will not be disrupted and hence that the school follows their requirement of providing a safe and pleasant learning environment. The school is not obliged to provide friends for a person. Friendships made in the school are a privilege, not a right. Take this as an example. If a person does disrespect a member of the school, they are placed under disciplinary action by the school. Repeated offences could lead to being expelled, which is considered to be the worst case scenario if a person decides to disrespect members within a school. If a person does get expelled, they are not doomed. They can still learn values from their family and can still be prevented from becoming a delinquent in life and in the society. If a person gets expelled from a family due to disrespect, who is going to teach them values so that they will have a successful life? For starters, the school can’t help, because that person does not even have parents to make him/her able to apply for a school, or more to the point, any school available. Of course, a person could not even possibly be prepared for school if they are not looked after during their premature years.
Family in premature years is very important. What a person experiences from birth up to the age of 7 plays an enormously big influence on the mental development of the child. During this time, a person’s mind is the most active. They will attempt to copy and learn from their parent’s actions and voices. From babyhood, a person learns how to walk and learns how to eat solid foods. In early childhood, a person learns how to use the toilet and how to talk in their mother tongue. Lastly, during late childhood, they learn how to get along with peers and developing skills in reading, writing and calculating. This is not possible if they are not taught and influenced by their parents. How would they be able to move around the school if they not taught by their parents? How would they know where is the appropriate place to go toilet? How would they eat food? How are they going to get along with the other students in the school? If they do not learn these abilities by 7 from their parents, then it would prove difficult for a child to catch up. Erik Erikson was a famous psychoanalyst who specialized on the psychosocial stages of development. His works on childhood adolescence and adult life became a great influence from the 1960’s onwards. According to Erikson’s psychosocial theory, he believes that the psychological behaviour and development of a person varies from 8 different stages in life. He uses a rope as a metaphor to describe the development of a person. How strong that rope is depends on how a person confronts each of the 8 different stages in life. In his theory, he uses an infant as an example, where if the child did not received predictable nourishment from parents and did not experience feelings of safety and warmth would not develop a strong sense of trust in the world. If the infant did not trust anyone, he or she could not progress onward to the next stage. It is through a person’s parents that a child progresses through school and the other stages in life.
In conclusion, family values are a set of moral beliefs set by family members influenced by the culture, economy, political beliefs and religious beliefs of a family. They are important because it helps members in a family can distinguish on what is right on what is wrong in the world and in life based on the factors. In a family, you can choose who to respect, because a family cares and supports for one another. However, you are forced to respect the members in a school because it helps the school in providing a safe and effective place for people to learn. Family in premature years is also important for the development of a child. Without nourishment and guidance from the parents, a child would not have been able to make it into school and throughout life.
Next up from our team, we have Ruri, the 3rd speaker who shall talk about the values taught in school and why they are so general that they not as important as family values.
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